Are You a Turtle or Tiger Quiz

Based on Imago Relationship Theory by Harville Hendrix, PhD, and Minimizing and Maximizing energy, developed by Joyce Buckner, PhD.


                       


Answer each of the 8 questions below.  Choose the answer that makes sense to you.  For the best results, pick the answer that matches what you do first.  Each answer has a Point Value (1 or 2).  Add your points and compare them to the scale at the bottom of the page.  Click the link at the bottom of the page to return to the Blog and read more about what all this means for your relationship.



“WHEN I GET UPSET, I TEND TO...”

(1)  Feel tight inside and not express my emotions.

(2)  Express my feelings with a lot of energy.

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“WHEN I GET UPSET, I TEND TO...”

(1)  Adopt an “I’ll take care of myself, I don’t need anyone” attitude.

(2)  Turn to others and talk to them about what I am going through.

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“WHEN I GET UPSET, I TEND TO...”

(1)  Not be able to tell my partner why I’m upset.

(2)  Tell my partner all about my upset.

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“WHEN I GET UPSET, I TEND TO...”

(1)  Have very little needs.

(2)  Be very open with my feelings and believe I need others around me.

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“WHEN I GET UPSET, I TEND TO...”

(1)  Exclude others from my personal space.

(2)  Express my needs and try to get my partner to hear and respond.

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“WHEN I GET UPSET, I TEND TO...”

(1)  Withhold my feelings, thoughts, and behaviors.

(2)  Be excessively generous.

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“WHEN I GET UPSET, I TEND TO...”

(1)  Figure things out by myself.

(2)  Feel responsible for making the relationship work, and getting my partner to open up and talk.

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“WHEN I GET UPSET, I TEND TO...”

(1) Feel safer alone or in situations that are not intense.

(2)  Get others input about what I should be doing to handle the situation.
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POINTS SCALE
Are you more Turtle-Like, or more Tiger-Like, or perhaps both?

8...............9...............10...............11..............12...............13...............14...............15...............16

Turtle                                                  Turtle/Tiger                                                          Tiger


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